My kids are such an important part of my life! I've always loved kids, even when I was one myself. I couldn't imagine a life without children. I've wanted to be a mom ever since I can remember. I'm not saying I don't ever face challenges with my kids. They are far from perfect and can take a lot of work and sometimes bring hurt into our lives, as I know at times I've done inadvertently to them. Welcome to life. We are all fallible human beings who sometimes fail, hurt, anger, and disappoint one another. The important thing is that we make the effort to move forward and walk in love and forgiveness, especially with our spouse and kids since these bonds are designed to be the strongest ones, second only to the one we're supposed to have with God Himself.
Although there are many things I miss now that none of my kids are little anymore, there are some perks too. No more diapers and relatively few sleepless nights or tantrums or potty accidents. ;-) Though they no longer have that baby and toddler cuteness, I still can enjoy them as the amazing young people they are becoming. Which brings me to the matter of doing this intentionally. My kids still need me (though not all of them will admit it, not naming any names here, but I'm thinking them), and I'm pretty sure they still want at least some of my time and attention, even at the ripe old ages of 22, 19, 16, 14, and 10. It's all too easy just to let life happen because they aren't screaming for mommy anymore, nor do they tend to initiate contact. Because of this, I've let one on one time with them slip. So now, as part of my joy filled, purposeful second half, I've decided I need to incorporate spending individual time with them, for their sake and mine. Relationships need time and work. You can't stay on cruise control too long and expect to have great depth, closeness, or joy in them.
Today, it's Kelley's turn. She's 16. We have a lot in common as far as interests and tastes. Out of the 5, she and I are the most alike. That doesn't mean I love the others any less. Just that sometimes it's easier for us to relate to one another and to find activities we both enjoy equally. We're planning to go to Caribou (a place like Starbucks, not sure how widespread Caribou is, but we have it throughout Minnesota). We both love hanging out there, getting a drink and a treat. I'm looking forward to this bit of bliss in my day.
Yesterday's bliss was taking a nap. I know that doesn't sound too exciting, but sometimes getting under the covers in the afternoon and snuggling into my pillows for a little sleep feels soooo wonderful, especially since I've given up caffeine (for the most part).
Would love to know what kinds of things you do when spending individual time with your kids.
Enjoy your kids today!
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